Our Need To Be Interesting Makes Us Uninteresting

As human beings we have a deep desire to be significant - to stand out, to be attractive, to be interesting, to be important.

The greater our own need for significance, the less attention we have for the other.  There more interesting we find ourselves, the less interesting we will find the world.  And the less interesting the world will find us.

However, when we can give up our need to be attractive or interesting and really listen and look at the other, we will find much to be delighted and enchanted with, even if it is someone or something that at first glance seemed ordinary.  In fact, you can literally begin to see, over time, how the other blossoms under the bestowal of receptive, affirmative attention. 

It is like sunshine on a rose.

And what is likely to happen?

The more enchanting we find the other, the more enchanting we generally become to the other, without even trying.

And Allah  knows best

image: with thanks via Iraj Jahanshahi
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