Forgiveness Is About Setting Your Own Self Free

Forgiveness does not mean that you condone what was done to you.  It does not mean that what was done was justified or correct.  It does not mean you were guilty or deserved what happened.  It does not imply that the act or the person you have forgiven is/was virtuous.    

Forgiveness means that you no longer hold any resentment in your own heart against people or life.  It means you are tired of the burden and the pain that resentment causes in your own self and in your life. It means that you choose not to be vindictive to deliberately harm others in reaction to their having deliberately harmed you. 

It means you choose to let go of what has already gone, what is over.

Forgiveness means that you may have seen the benefit or lesson or growth you received despite the pain and the suffering that was inflicted on you.  And transmuted your resentment to gratitude.

It means that even if you choose not to work with or associate with the people who hurt or damaged you deliberately – because they demonstrated that they cannot be trusted – you may still choose to serve them unconditionally if required.

Forgiveness is about freedom.  Freedom from resentment.  Freedom to act consciously in the unconditional service of others, no matter who they are and what they did, and therefore, in your own highest interest.

Forgiveness is about setting your own self free.

photo credit: Naz Gul Qasim

Forgo the Outcome and you will receive the Best outcome

Choose to Feed the Light, Not the Dark

The Root of Divine Justice

You suffer when you harm another -- not because God is vindictive -- but because there is no separation between you and other than you.  So when you harm another, you harm yourself.

Revenge

Revenge does not alleviate our suffering, it increases it. 

If we have been wronged and we do not have the means to hold the person accountable, and we are patient and have faith in Allah, two things are likely to happen:

1 - In the fullness of time, the person who wronged us will suffer from the same injustice. If they were unfair to us, someone will be unfair to them.

2 - In the fullness of time we will recognize how the injustice was in fact a blessing and we will be filled with gratitude for what happened.

and AllahuAlim

Unveil The Sun of Your Being

10 (MORE) THINGS YOU UNDERSTAND ONLY IF YOU’RE IN A SUFI TARIQA

1.    When people think you can’t be Muslim because you are a sufi.

2.    When people think you can’t be a sufi because you are Muslim.

3.    When people have read 2 poems by one sufi saint and they think they know more than your teacher.

4.    When after 6 months of intense practice and restraint you lose your temper once for 5 seconds & your spouse thinks you’ve lost your mind.

 5.    When people indirectly warn you that at all sufi shaykhs (pirs) are imposters. 

6.    When people get competitive after discovering you have a spiritual teacher.

 

 

7.    When people are disappointed to meet your normal looking shaykh because they were expecting the Grand Poobah.

 

8.    When the only thing people know about sufism is that one book they read and it’s not really a sufi book.

9.    When people start meeting you because you are in a sufi tariqa.

 

 

10.                      When people stop meeting you because you are in a sufi tariqa.

 

 

 

 

 

with apologies and respect to my beloved shaykh, fellow travelers, those who've asked me about the 40 rules of love (and those who like the book) and the people whose photos i've used.

 

 

 

photos from google images.